Fostering

Fostering stories

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Listen to what our foster carers and their families say about fostering with East Riding.

Sophie and Isabelle
Sophie and Isabelle

Transcript - Sophie and Isabelle

They've been fostering for about eight, nine years now, I think. Yeah, when I going into school. Yeah.

But, yeah, it's good. You get to meet lots of new kids and they kind of become like part of your family. You get to see them move on and.

Yeah, some kids, you just create like a really close bond with them and they become part of your family.

Basically. We get a phone call and then they ask us if we'd like to take them on. And then most of the time it's a yes. And then they just come and become part of the family. Yeah, they come and we get to know them, they settle in and then they just stay with us. Yeah.

We think of them like brothers and sisters and then we just hang out most of the time. It's nice to have someone always there that you can be with and talk to. Yeah.

So you never get bored, really. Yeah, it's just like a normal family. We just sit down, have tea, do stuff together and. Yeah, we go out on walks and long things because we've got a big garden, but, yeah, go out for tea. Yeah.

I mean, sometimes because of how big we are, it's harder to get into places, but we always manage to do it. You still feel you've kind of got as much of your parents as you want, whenever you want. Yeah. Wherever we need them by ourselves, they're always there. Yeah. We can always talk to them still. And if we need to go out and then we can. And we can always have our time to ourselves if we need it.

I'd say it's really fun because you meet so many other kids and some of them you have so much in common. You just get along like normal siblings would. Yeah.

We meet so many kids and obviously sometimes it is harder, but you get used to it and it's all right and they'll end up fitting in with you.

Justin and Robert
Justin and Robert

Transcript - Justin and Robert

We saw a poster for it when we were shopping one day and we thought, well, we'll get some information, give it a go.

I have always wanted children and we thought we could help others, didn't we? Yeah. Local authority were really, really nice, really helpful. So we took it further.

When we went to ‘skills to foster’, we did think, everyone's got children, we haven't got children. Are we going to be right for it, didn't we?

After the ‘skills to foster’, we actually thought, well, we could be quite good at it.

Once you've got the ball rolling and you've got your first placement and what have you, you soon realise through the process that every child is different, every case is different, and there's things that you've got to adapt to and once you've done it, it becomes addictive.

If they've been with us for a bit and then they'll say something like, they love you and you think, oh, well, obviously you've bonded with them, they've bonded with you. And to have that love that you're giving them and they can actually express themselves and to see them, to be able to show emotion when sometimes they can't, when they first come to us and stuff, that's a big major part for me.

I think with East Riding, they've always been there for us and at first, when you first start fostering, you ring them with a question. Someone always gets back to you with an answer. Someone's always there to help.

You do work as a team with East Riding, don't you do work as team? You've always got back up. It's so rewarding? Yeah.

To see the transformation from when the first came to us Just a bit of love can change a person, a child, can't it?

Give it a go. It's really, really rewarding.

If you like and love children, you will really, really enjoy it.

Tracey
Tracey

Transcript - Tracey

I've been fostering around about seven years. I got into fostering, because me grandma was one, and my mam, and I always wanted to be a foster carer when I got older and that's what I achieved.

But when they come into care, sometimes some people don't listen to the kids. They've got a mind of their own. It's just understanding them on what they want in life.

Every kid what comes into care has got hearts, feelings, no matter what, what age they are. There can be one, there can be ten, there can be 16. They all still need that loving care and having a family support them.

Sometimes you clash. It's not perfect all the time. You do have some days where you disagree, they disagree. It can cause a small argument, but you talk through it. You listen to them, they listen to you.

If they've got a problem, they come to me, or they come to my husband, or they can go to my two siblings. But, yeah, teenagers. They are lovable. Very, very lovable. Just give them a chance and you'll see for yourself.

When they do come, they're so nervous. But if you give them that much support, from day one, they come to you, that's how they are for the next two or three years. And you can change them kids.

If you've given them 100% of your time, you can change them. When I'm uptown and I'm walking with my lads, I feel the proudest mother going, and look at them how they come, a few months later, looking at them, that's when I get proud of my lads. It’s where they've changed. And they're just walking in front of you and I think ‘they're mine’. What I've achieved, and look at them, they've come from this, they've come from that. Now look at them. They say, ‘pardon?’. They'll open doors for people and I think, my God, what? Not me. That's what I do it for.

East Riding are one of the best. I've got the best social worker going. When a placement comes in, they tell you everything about that placement. They'll read everything out and they don't challenge you to have them. It's your choice to have them. You've always got support. You make a phone call, they always phone you back.

The training is absolutely fantastic and they really look after you on the training. You have got 100% support with East Riding, Yorkshire. I would ask anybody out there, please come, a foster carer, because it's so much of a challenge. It's absolutely fantastic seeing kids out there who can get a better life.

Alison and Lee
Alison and Lee
Jim and Lynn
Jim and Lynn

Transcript - Jim and Lynn

I'm Lynn and this is. I'm Jim. Yeah. And we've been fostering for just over ten years now. We rang up the fostering team and they arranged for someone to come out and talk to us about it and thought, and I think after that conversation, when they told us about the amount of support you get, the training you get, I just felt as if we would be part of a bigger team. Yeah. And I think we've always felt, as all the support's been there, if we've needed it, we've never been. You never felt as if you were on your own and having to deal with a situation you've never came across before. There was always somebody you could talk to, so I think that's quite reassuring, really. Yeah. We got a phone call, didn't we? And it was two little girls that they needed a foster replacement for. And obviously this was our first foster placement, so, yeah, we said, just let us have a chat about it and then we'll get back to you. So we said, chat? Yeah, let's go for it. You give a child a safe, clean home. You make sure that foods and everything is there, all the practicalities. They've got a nice, clean bed, they've got a room of their own. We always think that being in some kind of routine makes them feel more secure. They know what's happening. We'll try and keep to a timetable, like bedtimes, bath times, so that they get used to this environment. They know what's happening. There's no expected shocks for them. Sometimes they'll come into a foster family and they're quite shut down. And to see them open up and blossom, they are like little plants, just blossom. Once you do see that developing makes you feel great, that's where you get the reward. That's all the little troubles and strifes you have. Once you actually see them coming to you and talking to you and feeling comfortable being beside you and then being happy and you can tell they're happy. So that's the reward, really. And that's what they deserve. Just go for it. Try it for a year like we did, and I tell you, ten years down the line, you'll still be doing it. I think that's where you got to think to yourself, look, you're not tying up to a lifetime thing if you don't want to do that. It's reviewed after a year anyway, get a try. What you got to lose. I think you've got a lot to gain out. Yeah, you're going to gain. So much out of it. The love you give, you get back. Yeah, I think. Yeah. And that's all you could ask for, really, but you should give it a go. Anybody give it a go Because it's that rewarding, I think it really is. And if there's one thing I'm proud of in my life, it's doing this. Yeah. .

See what our foster carers say

In a recent survey, 100% of East Riding foster carers said they would recommend fostering for East Riding of Yorkshire Council:

Lynette

We wanted to help children and families who were going through difficult times and we had the room in our hearts and in our home as a family. It’s been a joy to be part of the ‘happy ever after’ whatever that means for the individual child.

Alison

I find the training invaluable, gaining not only an insight into children, but also people in general and I have gained a much deeper appreciation of why people behave the way they do. It has been a journey of discovery that I have enjoyed travelling down.

Chris

Fostering for the East Riding feels like being part of a huge family. We get to meet up at events and at training. There’s always someone at the other end of the phone.

Paul

Fostering changed my life, truly; the children have given as much back to me as I’ve given them. I can’t imagine being without children in my home and I am proud to be able to provide for their needs.

Mark and Michelle

We really enjoyed the process of becoming a carer. The home visits were a chance to help decide what type of fostering would suit us, and we found it interesting reflecting on the strengths and challenges of my own life and how they may help others.

Louise

I have only fostered teenagers, some short term and some long term for years. I am approved for any age but I believe that teenagers have a bad press and I like to give them the chance to feel safe, less judged and to give them opportunities to thrive.

Isabelle

If you are thinking about fostering then I would suggest talking to other carers and social workers. I’d recommend going to a drop in event. Don’t be scared to ask questions, even awkward ones.

Tom

You need a big heart, a good ear and a sense of fun and you’re halfway there.

Caroline

I received so much pleasure from seeing him grow and flourish into a lovely young man and knowing I was a part of his journey.

Gary

I’m a single dad and never thought I’d be accepted as a foster carer, but I thought I’m doing a great job with my son, and I knew I could do the same for a foster child and give them a good start in life.

Tracey and Alan

We love fostering. The hardest bit has been saying goodbye; but a year later we still keep in touch with Emily and her forever family, where she is thriving. It took her time to settle, but we know that all the love we gave her helped her be able to do that.

Sarah

Initially, I became a foster carer with a private agency but, after a few years, I transferred to East Riding. I haven’t looked back since. It was a massive change. The support you get with East Riding is invaluable.

Andrea

Support is only ever a phone call away, and if I have any problems, I feel there is someone there to listen and guide me.

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Example 1

Susan is a new foster carer, she is a level one carer and looks after Oscar aged 3.

Susan receives a weekly payment of £276.13.

The additional payments for holidays and birthdays, alongside an annual ‘loyalty bonus’ equates to an additional £22.20 per week.

So overall Susan will receive £15,513.28 per year, tax free, roughly equivalent to an annual taxable salary of around £17,000 per year.

Example 2

Tony has been fostering for 8 years and is a level three carer. He looks after Cody, aged 16.

Tony receives a weekly payment of £486.05.

This means Tony receives £27,628.80 per year including his additional payments and loyalty bonus, roughly equivalent to an annual taxable salary of around £34,000 per year.

Example 3

Jessica has been fostering for three years and is a level two carer. Jessica fosters a sibling group of three girls, Chloe, 6 years, Gracie, age 11 and Evie, age 15.

Jessica receives a weekly payment of £1,099.94.

With the additional loyalty bonus, holiday and birthday allowances Jessica will receive £58,296.82 per year, roughly equivalent to an annual salary of £84,000 per year.

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