Domestic violence and abuse happens when one person hurts or bullies another person who is or was their partner or who is in the same family. It can happen between people who are going out together, living together, have children together or are married to each other. It can happen when people live together or separately. People use domestic abuse to control other people.
Domestic abuse can also happen after a relationship has finished. Although domestic abuse happens mostly between adults, children and young people can be affected by the abuse that they see and hear, and they can be hurt or bullied as part of abuse between adults. Young people may also experience abuse from their own boy/girlfriends. We offer a group work programme for teenage abuse called Escape The Trap.
Domestic abuse can take place in different forms:
- Emotional - this can include constantly putting a person down. Constantly checking where someone is or stopping someone from seeing friends or family
- Physical - this can include hitting, pushing, kicking, pinching, throwing, smashing things or making threats to hurt someone
- Sexual - this can include rape or making someone do sexual things that they don’t want to
- Financial - this can include not giving someone any money, taking all their money from them or checking what someone spends their money on. It may also include stopping or not allowing someone to work.
If someone in your family is abusive or you are in an abusive relationship, remember it is not your fault. Remember that you are not alone and that there are people that can help you and your family. Everyone has the right to feel safe.
The Women's Aid website provides further guidance and help for people suffering domestic violence.
Womens aid - domestic abuse (external website)
You can read further information about how domestic violence and abuse can affect children and young people on the Hideout website:
Hideout - children home - domestic violence (external website)